BIO

Millenial brain trapped in a Baby-Boomer body.

Firstborn, Creative, Musician, Methodical, Organized, Thoughtful, Crazy-Detailed, Visual, Hyper-Auditory.

(📷:  Kasey Lynn)

Passions: God, Wife, My Children, Spiritual Sons, Laughter, Mentoring, Pastoral Care, Helping Others, Caregiving, Innovative Music, Playing Keys, Automobiles, Journaling.

Enjoyments: Palm Trees, Mountains, The Beach, My TREK Marlin 7, Swimming, History

Leadership Style: YES: Relevant, Real, Relational. Person Over Process. Relationship Over Rules.

NO: Aloof, Antagonistic, Arrogant, Alone, Dictatorial, Insecure.

(📷:  Kasey Lynn – DI Coffee Bar)

I Coach On:

:: Leadership

:: Mentoring

:: Destiny

:: Thought Life

(📷:  Christopher Michael Rudolph
Fellow Mentors Summit

:: Boundaries

:: Friendships

:: Dating / Engagement

:: Sexuality

:: Marriage

:: Parenting

:: Money  /  Budgeting

:: Son-ship with God

WHY I MENTOR:

An alarming number of guys walk alone.

Every male has a core-need to be affirmed, accepted, & respected.

Every man needs to know he is loved unconditionally, and that he has what it takes to do what he was meant to do.

Men need masculine validation during graduation, sexual discovery, engagement, marriage, fatherhood, promotion, pain, loss, crisis, failure, moral error, & tragedy.

If you help change a man, you impact his spouse, his kids, his grand-kids, his friends, his employees…affecting lives well into the next century.

(📷: Christopher Michael Rudolph
Fellow Mentors Summit Commissioning)

I purposefully mentor 5-7 men weekly.  I speak with or text that many daily.  Sometimes more.

I’ve journeyed, long-term, with over 200 young men since 1983.

Typically, we may meet regularly, usually weekly, for a few months or a few years, cultivating a safe space for growth. A non-judgmental, trust filled, Mentoring friendship.

Some stick around to become closest friends, often 20 to 35 years younger than me.  I am a believer in multigenerational friendships.  We learn from each other.

We still have contact with 65% – many since their formative high school & college years… now strong husbands, fathers, businessmen, creatives, musicians, artists, pastors, and leaders in their communities.  And mentors.

Eighty five percent of the young men in My Circle are there because I invited them.

What if we never asked?

First Tampa Circle- Circa 2017

IT’S NOT ABOUT ME:

I’m an introvert.

But I’ve learned the value of nourishing relationships.  It takes effort.

Often, when I speak, write, or podcast, guys will exclaim,

That’s exactly what I needed… it was like an arrow… it changed me…

That is indeed my honor & joy.

HOW I MENTOR:

Then: Rotary Dial Phones, Snail Mail (stamps!), Long Distance Phone Cards, Face to Face.

Now: Smart Phones, Text, IG, FB, IM, Email, Blogging, FaceTime, Face to Face.

Technology helps.

But Face to Face – The Principle of Proximity – still rocks most.

(📷: International Auto Show – 2019)

FOR THOSE WHO CARE:

Midwestern boy, urbanized from touring 8 years. Comfortable in the Country. Love the City.

Lived in Ohio, Southern California, on the Puget Sound in Seattle, Phoenix, Tulsa, and on the Seddon Channel in Tampa Bay.

BA in Biblical Studies with emphases on Pastoral Care and Church Administration.

Actively served ministries for 32 years, credentialed / ordained.

Former Positions:   Associate Pastor, Pastoral Care, Executive Pastor & Chief of Staff, Concert Tour Director, Worship Leader, Keyboardist

A PK and lived to talk about it.

I was an only child until my brothers came along when I was 14 and another at 18.

Married 35 years – still in love.

Three beautiful and wise daughters; a wise and beautiful daughter in law, and a wise and handsome son in law.

A funny girl dog Penny.

And.

Two of the dreamiest grand babies on the planet.

I’ve been Journaling 47 years.  It’s been an Anchor in my life.

In 2019, we downsized.

Sold the clutter.

Moved to an Island.

Rediscovered each other.

I hope we never leave.

The best way to get to know me? 

Talk with my family or ‘my guys.’

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Learn More…

(📷:  Major and Mrs. Cameron Hubbard
Cam’s been a part of my Circle since 2008)

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