Survey Results: What Men Want to Talk About

We launched I’d Rather Talk to You Than Sleep™ in January of 2014, asking our first viewers to complete a simple survey. You Were Very Honest. We got a lot to talk about!

Stats round up to nearest percentage.

64% of men invited to the survey, responded. That’s great for busy Millenials. Thanks Gentlemen!

An overwhelming 61% of men who completed the survey, gave their name.
Brave and Honest Souls (always kept secure and private).

Age Demographics:

18 8%

19 0%

20 3%

21 3%

22 3%

23 8%

24 17% *

25 11%

26 11%

27 11%

28 11%

29 8%

30 6%

31-35 14%

36-40 6%

Over40 6%

Our median age at launch age is 27.2 years old.

Glad to see some younger guys joining. Now is the time to get questions answered and get wisdom.

Also glad to see many of the 30-something married guys in my circle responding. Thanks for sticking with me over the years guys.

Marital Groups:

Married Total 53%

Out of those Married

Married with Children 22%

Newlywed (3 years or less) 17%

Married 14%

Single 42%

Divorced 3%

Soon to be Engaged 3%

Engaged none

Wish I was Divorced none (good)

I’d Rather Talk to You Than Sleep™ does not judge, discriminate, or value any marital “status” above another.

Here’s What You Said You Struggle With

(Names Removed to Protect the Innocent, haha – and in random order):

-Being intentional with my family (so far just the two of us), not just reacting to what life brings; building strong, life-long friendships; developing a practical, daily/weekly relationship with God…and maintaining it!

-Contentment versus Ambition (the balance in the conflict).

-Staying on track day to day. I become pretty compulsive and uncontrolled when it comes to dreaming & thoughts.

-Can’t think of a specific right at this moment.

-Everything.

-Worry.

-Knowing where to go next.

-Staying positive especially when things are going wrong

-Doubt, Masturbation, Lack of confidence.

-I don’t really care about all this “God” stuff anymore.

-Self-Loathing.

-How to lead a relationship (It seems to be a mapless highway). Also, what’s it mean to be spiritually centered (what’s that look like in relation to: me personally, relationship, dating, relatives, etc.)?

-Fear of being a failure in life as a husband, father, man….and just a human contributing to society.

-Not wanting to fight anymore…giving up on pressing forward with God.

-Confidence in my manliness. So many times I feel like the girls I’m interested in aren’t interested back. However, I don’t want to settle for someone that likes me, but they’re not everything I’m looking for.

-Finding time to spend with God.

-It seems to change. Right now it would be loving others with the God kind of love.

-Insecurities.

-Superiority Complex. Pushing away family member from my life. Bitterness and pride.

-Life.

-Money.

-Controlling my negative emotions and handling stress with family life.

-Leadership.

-Lust.

-Self-control.

-Self confidence.

-Same sex attraction.

-Anger.

And the Number One Topic You Want to Talk About Is…..

1. Money – 58%

(Managing what you have better; giving; saving; budgets)

2. Marriage – 47%

(Your Wife – Your Woman. How to Survive Estrogen Floods. I should know right?)

Leadership – 47%

(What a real leader is. What a real leader does.)

3. Actually Using the Bible – 44%

(Creating Arsenals of Defense from God’s Word in Areas Where You Struggle)

Mentoring – 44%

(You aren’t too young to start. I was 20.)

4. Wisdom – 42%

(Gaining it. Keeping it.)

Leadership – 42%

(Influence. Serving. Loving. Relating. Listening. Repeat.)

5. Self Control / Our Part – 36%

(Does anyone even have this any more?)

Relationships: Dating – 36%

Building female relationships with purity

Rest & Relaxation – 36%

(Do you ever unplug? You need to. Here’s how)

Thought Life – 36%

(What you think about is what you will become)

6. Emotions- 33%

(Anger, Joy, Jealousy, Hate, Love, Pride, Fear, Doubt)

Work & Productivity – 33%

(Managing your day with something left for you)

Relationships: Friendships – 33%

Success in friendships / overcoming strife & conflict

7. Sexuality: Masturbation – 31%

(In the past, we’ve had more questions about this than any other topic)

Peace- 31%

(Getting it and Keeping it)

Fathers & Sons – 31%

(A lot of guys still have unresolved issues with Dad. It’s not too late.)

8. Freedom / Overcoming -28%

(Getting free from what holds you back, including yourself)

Sonship: Prayer-28%

(Interacting with God. For Real.)

Temptation, Sin & Repentance – 28%

(We can always blame Satan, right?)

Relationships: Work – 28%

(Surviving the controlling or witchy boss – I wanted to type ‘another’ word – I just had one of these)

Direction & Destiny -28%

(Walking out God’s plan for your life)

Parenting – 28%

(Some of you guys have kids now, crazy!)

9. Sexuality: Porn – 25%

(Overcome guilt & shame. You CAN be free)

Words – 25%

(Controlling your tongue. You can’t take ’em back.)

Tongues – 25%

(That pentecostal stuff.)

Sexuality: Addictions – 25%

(R U really addicted, or normal?)

Ministry – 25%

(So… you serve at Megachurch! What to do and NOT to do in ministry. Don’t survive. Thrive.

Love – 25%

(The God Kind. How to Yield to it. How to Walk in it)

10. Worship: – 22%

Truly fearing and reverencing God. Even without your ipod.

Integrity – 22%

(Ditto)

The Holy Spirit – 22%

(Who is He? What does He do?)

11. Musician Talk – 19%

(Surviving The Road as a musician. I did it for 8 years,)

Forgiving – 19%

(Going from Bitter to Better)

Growing Up: – 19%

Stability, Confidence, Integrity, Masculinity, Internal Strength

Rivers of Mercy. Floods of Grace: – 19%

God has this for you. Always.

Sexuality: Married guys: – 19%

Ejaculation is not the goal. Love is. Learn how to really love. Meeting HER needs.

12. Sonship: – 17%

Understanding how God longs for you and desires to take care of you as His son

Relationships: Enemies – 17%

Unwanted “Friends” & Manipulators

Worry – 17%

(I come from a long line of worriers)

Sonship – 17%

Jesus as Your Elder Brother / Who You are in Christ

Wine – 17%

(Jesus turned the water into non-alcoholic wine, of course) What about drinking?

13. Sexuality: Same Sex Attraction – 11%

(Admiration vs Attraction vs Choosing Lifestyle)

Saftey / Protection – 11%

(Divine Protection. You Can Have It)

14. Restoration – 8%

Reached rock bottom? Gone too far? He’ll make you new

15. Suffering – 5%

(If we suffer, something is wrong with our faith, right??)

16. Death, Tragedy, Loss, Set Backs – 3%

(Making it through the most severe times – Coming out stronger)

Other Option – 3%

(Being a godly head to my household)

No doubt, as others take the survey over the next year or so, the numbers will change. We’ll keep you updated.

Fun Stuff: And the car you would buy if you had $25,000 is:

-Honda Accord. Hands down. Don’t even have to think about that one (more than one said this).

-The Best Used (but Newer) Car with the best MPG that it could buy!! I have an SUV so my manliness is covered, lol

-I would need more than $25,000 for the vehicle I want.

-1994 Chevy Impala or 2000 Honda Prelude 4WS

-VW GTI

-Camaro! green black racing stripes v8

-Those new Kia’s lol

-A brand new race car hauler and about 10 new Dirt Late Models lol

-New Subaru Outback