Why “I’d Rather Talk” Exists

Why I Mentor. Why I Write. Why I Podcast.

I’d Rather Talk™ was launched to help you succeed in your journey as a man.

To Enhance and Advance Your Legacy™ — by finding answers to the questions we all ask.

Or are afraid to ask.

One question guys often ask me is:

“Why Do You Do This?”

An alarming number of guys walk alone.

Every male has a core-need to be affirmed, accepted, & respected.

Every man needs to know he is loved unconditionally as a son of God, & he has what it takes to find and complete his personal destiny.

Every guys craves a sense of belonging. Authentic Lifetime Friendships.

Men need masculine validation during graduation, dating, engagement, marriage, fatherhood, promotion, seasons of pain, loss, crisis, failure, moral error, and tragedy.

If you help change a man’s thinking, you impact his spouse, his kids, his grand-kids, his friends, his employees – you alter his Legacy, well into the next century.

We are the most successful when we lock arms together.

Isolation kills.

It’s time to “leave your island” and stop trying to make it on your own.

Many men have no other trusted male in their life they actually talk with.

They watch sports. They text.

They Snapchat. They TikTok.

They create music. They take group selfies.

But they don’t talk.

Why Now?

Pretty simple.

In 2013, ‘She’ said, “if you don’t start writing for guys, God will find someone else to do it.”

Gentleman, it pays to heed your wife’s words.

Put down The Glowing Rectangle and LISTEN.

Her women’s intuition often nails the truth, whether we like to hear it or not.

Secondly, some of my guys have threatened to injure me if I don’t get started.

Not that they could. I’m a big dude.

Finally, and most importantly, it’s wise to yield to – and fulfill – the giftings down on the inside of you.

Finding and doing what you were meant to do brings blessing and happiness. Joy.

So…it’s time to write. It’s time to podcast.

It’s time to connect in even more Mentoring Friendships.

Who is “I’d Rather Talk” For?

I’ve always had a heart for the 18 to 30 somethings.

Even when I was one.

Why?

Because that decade-plus is a season with incredible growth potential. Young men are hungry for the black and white truth.

Learning to fly their own plane. Beginning to actually love, care for, and accept what they see in the mirror.

And what’s inside.

They are like sponges, searching for stability, looking for honest discussions about relationships, dating, finding a spouse, sexuality, communication with said spouse, destiny, integrity, and their careers.

And whether they realize it or not: Their God.

Young guys seek to be listened to, affirmed, accepted, and respected by their peers and key males in their life.

This acceptance and affirmation is a critical component of their happiness and long-term success.

Sadly, many have not been passed the torch of masculinity because those key males who should have made a difference in their life – did not.

Or could not.

Well…that being said, guys in My Circle are always growing up.

Many are newlyweds.

A few others, who have stuck with me for years, are now in their 30’s. Some have hit 40. Holy crap, fathers of teenagers even.

As a friend and mentor, I don’t exclude as they age.

I encompass and embrace.

Guys don’t leave The Circle when they hit the big 3-0. Heck, stay forever if you want. There is always a well that has their name on it. Only they can draw from that well.

Taylor Adam Welch, Brenton Robert Miles, 2009.
They Encouraged me to Launch This Site.

We’ve never arrived.

I still have multiple mentors in my life.

There’s always a man who’s already walked the journey just ahead of us. Why not ditch our pride and learn from him?

So… I’ll also be posting about marriage, parenting, sexuality, and other personal questions that Millenials have too. A little something for both — Gen Z’s and Millenials.

I realize you 23 year-olds don’t care much about parenting.

Yet.

Like, Uh, Follow Me, Like.

You can “Follow” or “Like” I’d Rather Talk, if you want.

But racking up followers is not my goal.

The longer I live, the more I realize I don’t know that much.

Yet, sometimes a simple phrase or nugget from a post or a podcast can change our life and — alter our course forever.

That’s why on social media we post occasionally to encourage & boost your day with stuff men care about.

Or should care about…

Leadership. Mentoring. Destiny. Thought Life. Boundaries. Friendships. Dating. Sex. Marriage. Parenting. Money. Son-ship with God.

And Sex.

Oh. I already said Sex.

Guys ask me about that the most. Cuz we think about it 18.5 times a day LOL.

So, we don’t tweet 17 times a day, we don’t blow up your IN Box, we NEVER sell or give your email address away.

Ever.

We only post articles here on our website (where you are now) once or twice monthly.

We Podcast a few times a year.

What You Have to Do Here

Gentlemen, you are brave for browsing a site where you might have to look in the mirror, face your fears, adjust your thinking, or commit to change for the better.

It’s non threatening here.

You don’t have to reply to anything, sign up for free stuff, give your kid’s names, enter the last 4 of your SSN #, trade away your male ego, repeat the books of the Bible, share your most embarrassing moment…

Or anything else weird.

Be Sure to Check out Our Disclaimers in the link below.

It’s America. You Gotta Have ‘Em.

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We won’t blow up your IN box. We don’t air your dirty laundry. Ever.

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What? Not following us on Social Media?

We don’t clog up your feed. We don’t tweet hourly. We don’t care about Likes. We don’t need more Followers for our ego. We don’t post closeups of Shrimp Cocktail.

Insights tastefully cybered to men. Once in a while.